Tuesday, May 15, 2018

Be Happy Today

Achievers tend to live in the future. They work hard, pick off goals one after another. After one task is checked off, they look for the next. Sometimes this constant living in the future can lead to mental health problems. Its not hard to see why. If you are always looking at what you don't have, or what you hope to accomplish, you can never be happy.

If you are not happy, not satisfied with your current self, you will NEVER be happy. We think to ourselves, if we can just make it to the next goal post we will be happy. If we can just get that raise. If we can just lose 5 more pounds. But when you get there, you look at the next goalpost. How great would it be to get that next raise. This is a never ending cycle.

Now this isn't necessarily bad. Its good to be hungry, to be motivated to be better. However, especially in today's society where this attitude is everywhere, it can be quite damaging. Depression, especially in our youth, is on the rise. People are more capable and empowered than ever, yet not happier. Its better to be happy now, waiting until you get there does not work.

One way to improve this is to not live in the future all the time. Shift the focus from what you don't have to what you have. Take a look at the past. Where you came from to who you are now. Be grateful for what you have. If you don't make this a practice its easy to take the things you have for granted. One great way to do this is a this gratitude exercise by Tony Robins on the Tim Ferris podcast. Try it. You cannot simultaneously be grateful and sad/angry/fearful at the same time so once you start being grateful, all the other negative feelings take a backseat.

I've added this to a daily journal exercise so that I can reflect and feel grateful every single day. I focus and then write down 3 things that I am grateful for. It seems simple but, as someone with an achiever mindset, it really works to keep me in a positive mindset each day. A constant reminder of how lucky I am regardless of the million things that I want to accomplish and how far behind I am.